Months after Joaquin Phoenix called the Oscars “the worst-tasting carrot [he's] ever tasted in [his] whole life,” (which is so funny) (very good quote) Brady cooper, in an interview with British GQ, gives a reason for the totally reasonable idea of not caring about winning an Oscar that is wonderful and very level-headed and inspired by watching his father die, which is maybe a difficult choice for something for us to talk about on a Monday afternoon, but here we are, sentence over, let’s get to the thing:

My father gave me two gifts – having me and dying with me. I used to be the kid that got the shakes if I had to talk in public; now, I just don’t get nervous about stuff. I can’t control everything. I watched my father die and I realised that is the way we are all going to die. For me, it was a switch from knowing something intellectually to knowing it by tangibly experiencing it. It rewired my neurological system. It almost did the opposite of motivating me. It was about keeping the main thing the main thing.’

As a result, missing out on an Oscar this month left Cooper completely unmoved.

‘I don’t want to win an Oscar. It would change nothing. Nothing. The things in my life that aren’t fulfilled would not be fulfilled. Career-wise, right now, it’s better that I don’t win one. I don’t want to win. I don’t.’

The fact that it is kind of hard to relate to a famous actor talking about not caring about winning the most famous Famous Actor award is not something that we should focus on here, I don’t think. Instead we should focus on: BRADLEY COOPER IS CORRECT! We are all going to die. Who cares if we don’t win “Oscars,” right? (“Oscars” meaning “Webbys,” I think, for us? The rest of us are just going for Webbys?) Let’s relax and remember that we can’t control everything, like Bradley Cooper said, and try to have a fine life for a while. For real. Listen to this guy. The end! (Via Huffington Post.)

Comments (26)
  1. Geez. I don’t know how to leave a comment here that won’t make me sound like a real D-Hole.

    • So is Bradley Cooper on the A-list?

    • With a story! For example:

      A girl once stood me up on my birthday. When I saw her the next time and said something about it, she replied “Everybody has bad birthdays sometimes. My Dad died on my birthday.”

      The moral of the story is, invoking dead dads is pretty much a guaranteed win in any conversation.

      • How come it’s okay for her to do it, but when I bring up her dead dad on her birthday it’s like the worst thing ever?

      • It also works for dead moms. My husband and three of his friends have an unofficial “dead moms” club because they all lost their moms at the same time. It basically consists of making yo mama jokes and making others uncomfortable.

  2. Well, it looks like Bradley Cooper and I have something in common after all. Neither of us wants him to win an Oscar.

  3. Bradley Cooper for honorary member of Videogum Everywhere?

  4. The weird thing about awards is regular people scream “AWARDS ARE MEANINGLESS” and everyone agrees mostly. But then when the people who are slightly closer to the possibility of winning an award scream “AWARDS ARE MEANINGLESS” the regular people don’t believe them.

  5. Bummer, bummer, bummer time.

  6. Death comes for us all… now I have the courage to make The Hangover III. Yolo.

  7. More like Bradley Party-Pooper, am i right? JKJKJKJK This is really sweet and I definitely didn’t start to tear up a little when he talked about his dead dad.

  8. Wait, I don’t think he’s saying he doesn’t care about his career, but wouldn’t this awareness of death apply to his whole career and not JUST this one thing?

  9. ‘I don’t want to win an Oscar. It would change nothing. Nothing. The things in my life that aren’t fulfilled would not be fulfilled.

    I totally dig this (by dig I mean get, not am happy at his unfulfillment). Right on, Cooper!

  10. Man, maybe he SHOULD play The Crow.

    • I hope so just because last I heard, James McAvoy (aka Second only to Swinton in my actorly affections) was up for the role and then I would be obligated to see it and I don’t think I want to, lest I go through another goth phase post-viewing. Bradly Cooper, take one for the team!

      My teenage years were an awkward time.

  11. I know I am going to die, but I still want to win an Oscar.

  12. I can actually kind of see where he’s coming from here (a little anyway). Full disclosure, I will not be in the running for an Oscar any time soon, so I can’t really relate on THAT level, but I’ll come at this from a sports angle. It sounds like he had a pretty close relationship with his dad. I had a pretty close relationship with my dad as well, sometimes talking on the phone two or three times a night if we were watching the same game, which we almost always were (albeit 2,000 miles away). I called him after almost every round of golf I played, be it a competitive round or not (also full disclosure – I usually play a handful of state amateur and club tournaments each year). I LITERALLY watched my dad die a few months ago, and I’m pragmatic enough about life and death to be over the worst parts of that experience. But there’s definitely a change in perspective. I won’t come out and say I don’t want to win a golf tournament, or that I don’t want the Angels to win the World Series or the Kings to win a(nother) Stanley Cup (sidenote: We’re big LA Angels and LA Kings fans). But I definitely don’t care as much I did a few months ago. I’m not as excited about the baseball season as I normally would be at this time. It sounds to me like he lost the person who’s approval really mattered to him, and if an Oscar is something he can’t share with that person, it doesn’t mean as much. I get it.

    Sorry to go all Seriousgum.

  13. I imagine he repeats this speech to himself while rocking back and forth while he sits sleepless on his bed every night

  14. I keep imagining this interview taking place in a Parisian cafe. Cooper speaks of life and amour in broken French and English. He is also smoking and wearing a striped shirt and holding a baguette. Basically he is an extra in Breathless.

    “Ahhh amore. No No No. My papa. J’adore papa! Il est mort. Oscar? No Oscar. Mon papa est mort. Life is fleeting, n’est pas? Take off your pants. We must find our joy now, n’est pas?”

  15. I come here to Videogum for the laughs, but every now and then my heart is warmed beyond measure. Thanks for sharing this, Kelly.

  16. I wouldn’t go so far as to say he doesn’t care, but it’s not important. Now I’m splitting hairs.

  17. until I saw the bank draft saying $5249, I accept that my mother in law was like really earning money parttime on their laptop.. there dads buddy had bean doing this for only 13 months and as of now repaid the mortgage on there condo and purchased a great Mazda MX-5. go to, ………

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